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The Eyes Of Texas Are Upon You

As the sun was beginning to set, we neared the border between New Mexico and Texas. Of course I had my heart set on a picture of the ‘Welcome to Texas’ sign that I assumed was going to be larger than life. Everything is bigger in Texas right?! Well apparently not if you cross over in Farwell, Texas on I-84.

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You can imagine my disappointment.

Just as I was about to have a major rant, Texas pulled through in all of its glory.

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Hallelujah!

4284061We had finally made it! Captain didn’t quite understand why I had woken him up for this photo op but he obliged. Holden just sat in the cat tent/cage meowing uncomfortably as he had done for the majority of the trip. A sense of great accomplishment came over Babette and I which solidified our plan to drive straight through to Austin without stopping in Lubbock. We had just about 8 hours of driving left. Babette was finishing one of her shifts, I would drive another three hours, and she would bring us into Austin.

I sent the Texan a screen shot of us, finally in the same state.  I was overjoyed to have made it to my new home state safely and with no major barriers.

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The west Texas sunset was gorgeous that night.

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Babette and I made it to my new Austin home at about 1:30am Wednesday (or very very late Tuesday night) just in time to prepare for Thanksgiving, Texas style! Our road trip was epic. There are so many details that I can’t possibly cover, as I still feel as though I’m recovering from this move half-way across the country. Suffice it to say, she and I are closer than ever and we have perfected the southern accent 😉

I am finally at home with my Texan.

Sigh.

It all fit?

It was sort of a challenge getting the remainder of my belongings into the car. A Scion XD isn’t that big. And when you put two cats in it, it gets even smaller.

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We were wheels up by 1pm. I drove and Babette was quite situated between all of the pillows, the ukulele, and the food. First stop was Reno. At one part of the journey we had some beautiful storm lighting.

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Hours passed. It was decided that instead of trying to “walk the cats” on their harnesses at some rest area, I would find a gas station that has one of those outdoor bathrooms around back. This way, I could bring in the cats, close the door, and have them use the makeshift litter box I prepared. Genius! Although Holden was not having it. Howling Holden was not in a good space. I’ll write more about that latter…
Well we braved some intense rain, a little snow, and finally pulled into our Hotel around 1am. Zzzzzz
Next stop: VEGAS

Busy Falling in Love & Moving to Texas: Part Deux

It’s been a whirlwind romance. It’s been a whirlwind several years. I won’t re-cap in great detail—you can read back through the posts if you’re very curious—but I will say that the last few years (and more recent months) have been filled with self-reflection, radical acceptance, and courage.

As I have been preparing to drive halfway across the country with two cats and my best friend—for a boy I’ve fallen head over heels in love with—I’ve done a lot of reflecting on how I have come to be in this position. I fully intend to document the adventure that will begin this Saturday November 16th as Babette and I head south, but for now I’d like to highlight just a few of the life lessons that I have learned within the last 5 years.

(In no particular order of importance)

  1. There is no good reason to have a credit card. I’m sorry but there isn’t. There is REALLY no reason to EVER have a joint credit card. Save your money. Pay cash. If you can’t, you probably shouldn’t buy it.
  2. According to society, it is a risk factor for a single woman to own more than one cat. It could be argued that there is a risk in owning any cats as a single woman, but clearly there is some degree of exponential (read convex) growth in terms of the number of cats owned and likelihood of entering cat ladydom.
  3. There are clear blue jobs and clear pink jobs. Sometimes there can be purple jobs, but only if partners are equally skilled, competent, and have agreed that both working at the same purple job will complete it faster. When women and men start mixing up jobs, things get confusing and people get their egos bruised. Best to clarify from the start which jobs are what color.
  4. The risks associated with alcohol consumption more frequently outweigh the benefits. Also, alcohol should never be included on a person’s “self-care plan.”
  5. Having a “5-year plan” is silly. There is no way to predict what turn of events will or will not take place. Please see previous post Series of Unfortunate Events. Best bet is to take all steps possible to be prepared for what might happen i.e. used gained wisdom from self-reflection, radical acceptance, and courage to be content with life and find purpose in daily living. Happiness will be the side-effect. The only plan one should make is to be debt free.
  6. Moving frequently encourages minimal possessions. Minimal possessions decreases risks of entering a life of hoarding….Does frequent moving and minimal possessions therefore increase the risks of becoming a nomad? Is that bad? That seems like a bell curve of some sorts…
  7. You can’t mail liquor boxes (unless fully wrapped covering all labeling) despite their amazing qualities as a sturdy shipping box.
  8. The cheapest way to move to another state is via the United States Postal Service and Wal-Mart. Boxes are about 69 cents each at Wal-Mart and if it doesn’t rattle, it ships media rate…. Just be sure to get delivery confirmation. Those pods, trucks, and everything else costs several thousands of dollars.
  9. It is important to step out of your comfort zone from time to time. Go on random dates, go on blind dates even, interview for jobs so that you can practice presenting yourself in a professional manner, say yes to the invitation to go out even though you would rather just veg at home.
  10. Be hopeful. Be thankful. Be open. Be wise. Be silly.

One random evening…

Out With The Old, In With The Nouveau

Today I’m sitting in the sun, drinking my home brewed iced americano, listening to some tunes, and having a yard sale. Yep, I decided to move! I’m selling my stuff. This includes art I’ve created, vintage furniture, clothes, and more art.

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I will say that I find this process to be very therapeutic. As I’m organizing, sorting, and evaluating my possessions, several things go through my mind. I remember how these things came to be mine, the purpose they’ve served, and how they are now superfluous to me. I create art for me. Art for Art’s Sake. I don’t care if other people like it, love it, or hate it. I don’t make art for others, I make it because I need to create.

“Why should you think that beauty, which is the most precious thing in the world, lies like a stone on the beach for the careless passer-by to pick up idly? Beauty is something wonderful and strange that the artist fashions out of the chaos of the world in the torment of his soul. And when he has made it, it is not given to all to know it. To recognize it you must repeat the adventure of the artist. It is a melody that he sings to you, and to hear it again in your own heart you want knowledge and sensitiveness and imagination.” -The Moon and Sixpence by William Somerset Maugham

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Based on the life of artist Paul Gauguin, Maugham writes about an man who escapes his life to live and create art in Tahiti. He abandons all that is familiar to him–wife, home, friends–because his need to create is greater than his known life. An artist must create or his soul will whither. Creation will define itself for the artist. Writing, painting, composing. Any urge to create or construct beauty from chaos. To bring light into the darkness of the soul.

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And so it is time for me to create new beauty in my life. I’m working towards becoming debt free by 31. I may end up living on a boat or moving to New York, but I’ll decide that for sure in a few months. One year ago today, we filed for divorce. As I look back over the year, and then look ahead, I am more and more excited about what the future holds. I never knew broken glass could shine so brightly.